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Counting in Mandarin..

Caitlin knows her Mandarin counting from 1 – 10, audibly. As in, she can cite it. But give her a break, thus far it’s only in ascending order :)

She also knows her roman numbers already (or do I mean gregorian?? You know- the numbers on your keyboard); proved herself repeatedly in the lift and (since then) any other places now.

Come time to teach her the Chinese calligraphy of 1 – 10, we stumble.

She can point from 1 – 10 and cite them. Jump in randomly pointing at any calligraphy-number with “What’s this?” and she stumbles.

If they are written in ascending order, and if she knows that they are, she can sometimes get by.

How? She cheats.

It’s quite funny watching a 4 year old citing something in their head, and visually counting without fingers, matching the citing and jump/skipping eye-counting!

At least she thought of that herself!

How old before babies start to stand and walk?

Caleb turned 1 in Jan ’09.

Today he did these….

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And then, for the first time(s?) in his life, he stood!

The following pic was actually not the first time he managed to stand. That first time that he did manage to stand, we broke into cheers and applause that frightened him, and literally made him weak at the knees!

But it wasn’t long before he managed again!

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Well done, son! Heh heh!

So, soon he will be a walking babbling little boy for the rest of us to chase!

DAh-DAH-DAH duh duh duh…nnnnnnnnnnnnnnn na-na-na….

Generally, do babies start walking first, or start talking first? I can’t remember this for Caitlin; I do remember that she started walking when she was still in her nappies with an external anti-wet shorts, similar to the ones Caleb is wearing above!

Crash course (10 dish course?) in project management

I would say that in planning for this event, my niece has had her first taste in project (event?) managing and executing a pretty major event, even if it’s only a family affair.

And being the cheeky uncle that I am, during times of emailing and IM-ing with her I pressured her highlighting things like “Are we on schedule?”, “You do realise that it’s now only seven days till the event”, when we (she) still hadn’t settled on which doorgifts would be best for the occassion / guests, let alone allowing time for the suppliers to come back with a quote and also getting them made!

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She’s been frantically visiting the venue, executing the questions we had about where and how the tables will be arranged, sorting the seating by guests, getting her team (of cousins) to memorise the tables to help ushering, where to position the tv / screen (we have a slideshow of photos of last 50+ years), compiling the photos, “do they have wireless mics”, “this doorgift is better than that”, and getting her surprise gift completed, etc.

Yes, she’s done a surprise gift too.

At this juncture, from my own observations I’d say she has experienced at least some of these emotions!

  • Some small forms of accomplishment (getting things in order for the event)
  • Asking for favours
  • Asking authorities (her older relatives) to stick to deadlines!
  • Gratitude
  • Controlling some (anxiety-related) emotions
  • Pressured!
  • Can’t please everyone!
  • Panic!

Pretty good training just before heading off to uni!

Will let you know how the event goes!

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Photos courtesy of my brother’s Flickr collection

First day back at school and multi-lingual kids

So I was telling my friend Al when Caitlin & I were in Adelaide recently, that I had wanted my kids to grow up in Malaysia, like Hot Mummee & I did; and specifically, for them to get at least Chinese medium primary education, like I had.

Growing up here alone would already expose them to the various Chinese dialects; and especially in Kuala Lumpur where Cantonese is widely spoken and used for everyday transactions.

Already, spending her days at Grandma’s after school, hearing them speak Cantonese, and being exposed to the Chinese soapies they watch just before dinner, are already slowly but surely equipping her with the language. Hot Mummee and I cannot use this as our secret language anymore- yes we’ve benn caught out a few times already! Hokkien or Fujian is my dialect, but I’d rather she knows how to speak Mandarin well first.

I am not too worried about Caitlin not getting enough chances to learn English. Both Hot Mummee and I speaks very good our English, and also given the podcasts and TV that she watches I seriously doubt she’d be missing out on being able to learn this language good.

This week Caitlin went back to pre-school. We had earlier enrolled her in the Chinese medium for her age, called Pre-2; she’s just finished Pre-1. Then, few days before Christmas the school calls up and says that due to insufficient numbers, that syllabus is cancelled.

Oh, believe me- Hot Mummee can kick up a fuss when she wants to. And I let her do most of the talking! Being the date it was, they didn’t leave us much time to look for alternative schools, and we wanted Caitlin to start being exposed to Mandarin this year, since it will be 2011 when she start proper primary school lessons in Mandarin in full force. Leaving only 2010 for this exposure frankly will not be enough to prepare her.

The long and short of it (mostly long!), we have come to an agreement with the school on this: We enrolled her into Pre-3 level Mandarin syllabus- meaning she is actually in the group a year older, and where she will probably repeat Pre-3 again in 2010. We haven’t highlighted this fact to Caitlin, only that she will be in a new class (“yay!”) with new friends (“yay!”), just not the older part.

So on Monday I dropped her off at school. She’s “graduated” to attending a classroom upstairs, where her ex-peers are still downstairs. I walked her to the classroom door and the new teacher took her in. I went downstairs to check some things with the principal, and went back upstairs to see how she was doing; seeing as the class would now ALL speak Mandarin instead of her most comfortable English, and that they were older, and likely already knew each other from being together from last year.

I peeped.

She was standing backed against the wall, between first and second row of chairs / tables, body weight on one hand on a chair, watching someone / something incessantly / interestingly out of my sight. She had that very apprehensive look on her face that she gets when she is very unsure of what is going on / if she is in very unfamiliar territory.

She turned to look at the doorway where we parted earlier; probably cos in her peripheral vision she saw a figure (me).

Her face relaxed, broke into a very wide grin, and waved the kind of kid-wave that shakes the body.

She is okay.

I waved back. It’s okay. So I left. All warm and fuzzy.

What would you do if you lost your toddler?

I took Caitlin for the new animation movie, Bolt; no I didn’t lose her in the mall, despite the title of this post.

I should have known, being on a Sunday that the chance was slim in getting tickets. It was after all the first weekend of its screening. In the end, to manage her disappointment, we “settled” for Madagascar 2. I think she enjoyed it; despite asking “Is it finished yet?” some 5 times. I think she was more determined to sit through the whole movie than to enjoy the story- we kept saying how you shouldn’t leave the cinema before the end of the movie, like what she did during her first movie experience with Wall-E.

So anyway.

I parked at The Gardens, we walked briskly to get to the top floor of Midvalley. At The Gardens, initially I could hear someone speaking very loudly at the other end of the mall. I had thought it was just a kid making repeated noises. As we walked toward the middle of the mall, the voice was also coming closer. I realised the repeated “noise” was “Michael…. MICHAEL….” and it was coming from a lady.

She was pushing a stroller. Beside her was a boy walking along; no, he was actually running to stay beside his mum.

She was looking very very worried.

“MICHAEL! MICHAEL!……”

I couldn’t stay around to see what was going on next; after all we were (also) in a hurry. I went down the escalators at the middle of the mall, looking up to see them pass the top of it onward to the other end of the mall.

It dawned on me what was going on. The lady and the boy passed another party, probably Sunday shoppers too; gesturing to other probable shoppers out of our sight. A small person, nee high.

Caitlin was also looking, probably only because of the noise. I asked if she could guess what was going on (I have started to ask her to assess situations, lately).

I don’t think she could; she said she didn’t know. I told her what I thought was likely going on…

What would you do if you had lost your toddler in similar way?

What “survival skills” would you teach your child to tackle such an incident?

I had a similar experience myself before I started going to school, so many years ago. It was a beach outing and I had wandered off “base” so far that I lost where we “camped” on the beach. You can imagine the horror when my family couldn’t find me, at the beach.

The long and short of it is- somehow I had memorised (I can’t recall how or who made me) my dad’s car registration plate. That’s all I could offer the cops, who later found it in the parking lot, and placed me on it waiting for someone to claim me.

In this day and age, similarly I guess a child could be made to memorise mobile phone numbers…

What else?

Aspirations for my kids

No, not setting high or any expectations at all.

Merely small stuff that I’d like my kids to have / equipped with / to be skilled at.

  • Some form of martial arts
    To me, I think this is quite an important “skill” to have. Not only is it a form of exercise, it can also be some kinda self defense for fending off (to an extent) bad guys. It builds confidence, and also kinda sexy on girls ;)
  • Know how to swim
    Again, a form of regular exercise. I think humans should know how to swim too. This may be a surprise to “sporting nations” like Australia, but believe me, there are families and folks here who don’t know how to swim.
  • Bike riding
    As a matter of personal preference, to me whether or not this is a regular sport is not important. What is important is at least knowing how to cycle…
  • Can cook
    There will be some point in any adult life where one will have to cook for themselves- I know I had to, while attending uni and living with flatmates etc, where we may have to take turns in cooking. At least know how to cook some pasta and fry a decent wok of rice! (Not necessarily having both these at the same meal though)
  • Doing the dishes
    While this is related more on one’s upbringing and contributing to around the house, this is also a skill that one needs to have. Sometimes there are old ladies that guys need to impress when visiting them (or their daughters!)
  • Some level of street smart
    I don’t mean Jason Bourne type of street smart, but enough sense to watch out for things like: Avoid walking into secluded areas, know when someone is trying to scam you, walking to the car with the car keys in hand sharp end pointing out, locking the car doors after getting in, making sure the house is secure at all times, etc.


What life-skills can’t you live without?