(Un) favourites of the moment
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I keep bleeding, keep keep bleeding love
I’m too sexy for this shirt, too sexy it hurts..
Posted on June 5th, 2008.
Even being carried, I still gotta have style, you know …
Yup, that’s right!
Marriage “Fitness”, not just health!
Posted on June 5th, 2008.
Moomykin‘s recent post of a very sweet poem about her own marriage got me thinking about my past relationship.
Some of you guys know that this is my second marriage. While I have never intended to hide this from the people I met (which included Hot Mummee who eventually became, well, Hot Mummee to my kids!) I had not wanted to delve very deep into how things unfolded; or folded, metaphorically.
What I can share is that there was nothing major like infidelity or my being beaten into a pulp at home. It was simply just a lack of effective communication. We were in a sense being too polite to each other, and then we weren’t.
When things were starting to fall apart, we did opt to see a local marriage counsellor. Being new to this whole experience and not knowing what “tools” were available for such situations, I had thought that it would be joint counsellings. Turned out that she wanted to first see and talk to the counsellor alone. I did also go see the counsellor too but we never did have a any joint sessions to talk things through.
In the end, I had to feel and figure my way out of the situation, which at that age and maturity level in hindsight, I did do my best. But of course with age, we as human now know where we went wrong in our own past and would today handle the same situations very differently.. thus all the “If only I had”, “I should have” statements we sometimes tell people or even to ourselves. We do get wiser with age, but it does also mean lost opportunities.
This was in the mid-90’s, where the internet was still in its infancy insofar as online help was concerned. There was no Google to search for marriage counselor to at least equip myself to handle the situation.
Doing a quick search on “How to Save Your Marriage” yielded this result: Marriage Family Counseling. Sites like this would have easily offered me some form of tools to handle the situation, instead of falling into the typical human stance of defensiveness and denial; giving me the maturity to look at big pictures and working things through. It’s such a pity because in particular, this site also offers free assessments and advice over email subscription, which given our problem then of only not knowing how to communicate effectively, may very likely have gone some way to help our situation.
But let’s move on….
On a positive note, at least now I, for one, know there is such an online service, and might even sign up for their email just to get some points / skills to keep this current flame burning even brighter!
Punishment for poor exam results
Posted on June 3rd, 2008A relative was recently in town from Penang. He has 3 boys ranging from 10 years old (primary 4) to 2 years old; but on this trip the eldest one did not come along.
School’s out- Part 2
Posted on June 2nd, 2008So this Daddee had actually taken a few days off work just to be with Caitlin, on her first school holiday break.
A common understanding
Posted on June 1st, 2008She props herself up on her elbows, on the bed, peering over the mini-mountains of pillows. In this light I can just make out the outline of her japanese doll haircut, and her eyebrows. She is looking at me.
School’s out!
Posted on May 26th, 2008So it’s the school holidays, the roads are clear-ish, the office is somewhat quiet, the holiday spots are booked out.
It’s only a meme-post…
Posted on May 23rd, 2008I started writing this, and then forgot all about it!
I have been a silent reader of Anna’s creativity and craftiness for a long time now. I also once declared that I would attempt this at home myself (along with revamping this blog, putting in more attention on properly setting up Adsense, work out a routine for routine work outs, etc), but I will ashamedly give you the excuse of “no time”- when I know it’s really only a matter of time management (or as some self-help experts would say “priority management”; time is constant for everyone on Earth).
China quake: Please help me..
Posted on May 21st, 2008.
I subscribe to BBC’s Global News podcasts. Since the China earthquake they have been covering it in every podcast episode.
The latest episode (Global News 21 May AM edition) had a reporter covering the orphaned kids, reporting from a makeshift middle school, of only tents.
One account was on a couple of kids. Both are too young to really understand what happened, with the older one still waiting for their parents to come pick them up. Their grandfather says he’s over 60 years old now, admits he cannot care for them, has to rely on the govt, and worries about their future.
Another account is on a 14 year old boy who does know what’s going on. He was only recently reunited with his younger 8 year old sister. He wants to stay with his aunt and uncle, “but if they don’t want us, we will go.”
Dr Pixie is looking to go there to give any assistance she can. But I understand that she is unable to obtain a Chinese visa. At the moment she and another Dr are looking for ways they can go.
If anyone can help with “pulling strings” with Chinese visa, please let me know.
Favourites of the moment
Posted on May 21st, 2008Currently it’s Bee Movie. She won’t have it any other way. Not Playhouse Disney channel (with a myriad of shows like Bananas in Pj’s, Thomas and Friends, Pocoyo), not past faves like Bear in the Big Blue House or Little Einsteins on VCD’s.
Anytime we walk through the door, it’s Bee Movie. Wanna watch what’s on tv now? No, I want Bee Movie.
Day of Fun in the Sun!
Posted on May 20th, 2008.
Finally, over the weekend we decided to do something as a family, a semi adventure for Caitlin too. We went to Genting Highlands.
Specifically we went to the outdoor theme park, seeing as Caitlin’s been to the indoor one when her aunt was back for holidays not-too-distant-memory ago- even for a toddler. This time it was with Daddee and Mummee, and (maternal) grand parents came along too.
Famous quotes for the moment!
Posted on May 19th, 2008.
Sigh, this Daddee ah, so silly…
It’s okay Daddee, I licked it already!
Daddee? Where is the talker from the radio?
What do you mean?
Where is the talker on the radio; where is he?
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While playing with her Lego toys, we were trying to build a tall castle, which obviously kept falling over. Daddee suggested that instead of building it upwards / tall; “So that instead of making the people run up and down (the towers), let’s make it wider (with the limited blocks) so that the people can run left and right.”
Caitlin lays the existing tall tower on its side. “You mean like this?”
I was dumbfounded, but still kept my cool. “Yeah, like this…” My goodness, lateral thinking!
And the final word, from Caleb: aaaaahhhhhhgegegegegegegegegegege…
Toddler’s grammar, colouring, Daddee wordless again!
Posted on May 14th, 2008.
“I good of colouring already..”
Did you know that “k” is for kettle?
I wonder what “L” will stand for?
Revenge on the bully is sweet!
Posted on May 12th, 2008.
Caleb the Daddee-bully, takes forever drinking his milk. He’d start off all keen; naturally cos he’s hungry, then at about 3oz left (we give him 6oz at the moment), he’d start showing less interest and start being distracted.
By distracted, for a 4 month old kid, is: Stop sucking, looking around, turning his head allowing me to poke his cheek with the bottle-teat, smacking the bottle silly. It’s really frustrating ‘cos the milk may be wasted, he’s not full, will wake sooner than later for the next feed.
So, the bluff-the-little-children trick then, according to Hot Mummee, is to distract the distracted.
- Put him on his back
- Remove the hankie from around his neck
- Put away the bottle.
- Start talking / singing to him. The little fella does seem to exhibit traits of a conversationalist, if I can even start using this term on a 4month old. He responds very well when he’s spoken to; get all excited limbs-waving and even mutters “words” an infact can muster.
- Sometimes I’d also use a rattle toy to get his attention. This toy is a transparent giraffe with tiny balls inside. He seems fascinated by the ball rolling around inside.
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Then, secretly and discretely, do the above in reverse.
And voila! I have fooled the little man back into sucking! Usually with the help of the oh-so-captivating rolling balls.
I sound like I am taking revenge on being bullied by Caleb. In a lot of ways, I AM! Muuaaahahahahahaha!
Bullying in preschool!
Posted on May 10th, 2008.
This had to happen at some point during the parenting journey; at least that’s been my view. I just never thought it was going to be so soon!
I came home from work last night and greeted my inlaws and Caitlin.
Hi Caitlin! How’s school today; any homework?
No… OH Daddee, (something to report) today, in school, a boy hit me….
Mini-milestones, for Daddee!
Posted on May 8th, 2008.
It shouldn’t be, given that Caleb is our second child…
But this Daddee seem to only have started knowing how to read the little human’s signs. And for the life of me, I can’t seem to recall those of Caitlin’s when she was his age.
Sleepless and speechless….
Posted on May 8th, 2008.
I wanna post something, but I don’t seem to have anything on my mind to share at the moment….
So, here’s an image, or two, to share, instead.
Taken only just now. The room was dimly lit, naturally. Set the camera to very slow shutter speed; 10 sec shutter speed in fact. Set the camera on the bed and put on the timer and let it snap by itself.
I took a few, but I think the pillow was inflating / deflating slowly while the shutter was opened, effectively blurring my shots. Either that, or that the kids’ breathing-movement was a factor…
Little man Caleb has been sleeping on his front the whole of his life…. But he should be waking soon, it’s nearing his milkies time…
YYyyyyyyaaaaaawwwwwnnnnn……………..
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