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Last night, I was going to photo-document Caitlin’s thigh’s healing, to capture the pink patch now that all the brown dried skin has fallen off, to share with you here. I had already taken a shot of when those bits were just starting to fall off.
In that first photo session, I had asked her to put her hand where it was (in that shot mentioned above). While going to take this second shot, we were on the bed and she was a little cheeky wanting to lie down; effectively she couldn’t reach / place her hand strategically as instructed.
I asked her to sit up, put her hand where it would cover the bits; mentioning that it’s rude to take photos of one’s private parts.
“Private … what?”
“Private parts”, implying the bits.
She contemplated for a while. She already knows the implications of the bits, in that she does get quite squirmy about whom she allows to help her wash them. She only didn’t know how to refer to the concept of the private parts.
This morning in the car ride to school, not surprisingly she brings up a conversation she had from some time back. This time it was from our chat last night.
“Praaaiiiiii… what did you call it again, Daddee?”
“Private parts.”
I don’t know why I continued further after reiterating the “rudeness” of being photographed: That if anyone touches her private parts also, to tell Daddee.
Specifically, I said only Mummee, Daddee, both Grandma’s, Dr Pixie, and our domestic helper are allowed to touch her private parts, and even then it was only to help her wash her bits. Dr Pixie is an exception, cos she’s a doctor- she’s allowed to touch because she is helping look after us.
I am pretty sure she got it. I am also pretty sure she will even repeat this to, say, her (female) teachers, if they were to try and help her wash up after a visit; but which she tells me they don’t (help) anyway.
She did also ask what I’d do with the people who did touch her private parts. Trust a 4 year old to probe further! Other than beating the crap out of them, I decided to only offer that I’d tell the police. She asked further; but we kinda agreed that somehow the perpetrator would be visiting the police station with me somewhat voluntarily!
I hadn’t planned on broaching this subject this early; I hadn’t thought about it actually. But since it came up, and that she was likely to be able to comprehend anyways; which she did, I think this topic went down well.
Don’t you think?
Well done Daddee, that was exactly how to handle this situation. You might remember that I too had to have this conversation before I expected when A injured herself on our backyard play equipment.
I also try to use correct anatomical terminology where appropriate.
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Good job, Daddee.
I have also told my boys about such “touching”,
The other thing I have also told the older one is that you must also not indecently expose yourself in public. This is because he often will just pull of his wet clothes in the porch or back lane if they get wet.
I can’t stand this bad habit, as if we are some village people… sigh.
Hi Dadee, I like your blog because your daughter and son are almost similar ages to mine
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It’s never too early to bring up this subject, especially when there are perverts out there abusing children as young as 3. As long as the child can talk and understand, I’d say better tell them early. I also told my daughter when she was about 4, about private parts and that nobody can touch except A, B, C. Messages given to children at this age REALLY STICK in their heads
You changed your blog look!
At any rate, I think it went very well. Kids really have to learn as early as they can.
Hi Hissychick,
Thanks for your response. Yes I do also recall you mentioned something in some meme about yourself. Kids should be taught to learn to speak up.
Moomykin,
Caitlin does have a habit of lifting her shirt/blouse too! But it’s usually only at home, and when she is lazing on the sofa etc, stretching. BUT STILL!
Ann,
Yes I have changed the look! The old one was looking a little cramped…
Welcome KL!
I do hope you come back often!
Do you have a blog we can kepoh at too, especially when you also have similar-aged kids?
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