After this event Wyluxx, his 16 yr old daughter and I went for a proper dinner (proper meaning we didn’t really have a meal before the event). This was in a typical-ish Chinese restaurant in a shoplot; you know, opened front no doors, siew chow joint. This was still on the foothills of Genting.
Upon reaching an empty table Wyluxx gestured for his daughter not to sit where she was about to, but to sit “over there”- another part of the table. She asked why, he said “You’rewearingaskirt..” She looked around, and spotted (“oh..”) the table of probably-blue-collared mid-aged men, sipping their tea with empty plates of whatever they had had. They eyed without staring.
I don’t think my niece as naive, but maybe just not as alert as she should be.
I used to be like this with my dates. Not so much telling her where to sit, but as a precaution I know where things and people are, who among these was looking and / or eyeing; just in case (there’s that reference to Jason Bourne again). Some dates knew where to sit, others knew where to sit also!
Not that Caitlin is already of that age (then again there are those who do like this age), but I would have to be on this similar alert too; as part of the street smarts that I would like my kids to be.
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1 Moomykin // Sep 3, 2008 at 12:28 AM
Yes, good noting.
I think we do treat boys and girls rather differently.
Today, max accidentally wet his pants in the toilet at a coffee and insisted he take his pants off. So for maybe 5 minutes, while my sis went back to the car to get his spare clothes, he sat bottomless on my lap, happily eating noodles despite everything else.
If he had been a girl, I would have insisted that she be brought to the car to change.
Bias, I know…
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2 Ann // Sep 3, 2008 at 2:00 PM
Observation of surroundings is the best skill for a girl!
Observation of a girl is what ‘surroundings’ do best!
But boys now a days have to beware too.
And boys do have their share of looks and giggles.
Good post.
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3 hissychick // Sep 3, 2008 at 6:01 PM
I am so not ready to think about boys and men oogling my girls. At least mr hissychick has reassurred me that the vacant block of land next door would be a good place to hide the bodies!
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4 hissychick // Sep 3, 2008 at 6:02 PM
…the bodies of the wicked boys in question that is.
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5 Daddee // Sep 3, 2008 at 6:16 PM
Me neither.
Also, this is already the age that they need to be told to tell if someone touches them inappropriately.
I haven’t thought about how to broach this yet. I know my sister in law has done that with- hey, the very same niece; when she was a youngling….
I have, however, already taught Caitlin to scream and kick non-stop should anyone she doesn’t know grab her, in public places. It’s been a while- I gotta remind her again.
6 Moomykin // Sep 5, 2008 at 12:22 AM
I have already mentioned to Micah a couple of times about not letting people touch him inappropriately, even relatives and friends that we see often, unless they are helping him to clean up.
Hope he remembers. Yes, must remind them often.
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7 Cheong Mei Ling(biuye) // Sep 5, 2008 at 5:54 PM
I enjoyed reading all your comments as this is an interesting topic.It is good to keep the kids alert I agree as parents you can’t be with them 24/7. This is irregardless of gender as can’t be too sure nowadays. As parents, your kids will always be priority.
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