Another thing to add to the table of contents for baby manual.
Fundamentals of bottle-feeding a baby
As all parents know, baby-feeding requires not just making sure the teat is filled with milk (ie, baby not sucking in air) but also that baby needs to be burped occasionally.
Caleb falls asleep halfway being burped. For me, this is the most frustrating part of handling a baby- when baby isn’t “cooperating”. Because he is already very sleepy, waking him only gets him in a grouchy mood, leading to more crying; where the crying before was due to hunger. The milk also gets cold, requiring dunking the bottle in hot water to keep warm- all this with infant in one hand / arm. When he is awake, the neighbours know it too. Caitlin stirs in her bed, sometimes grunts due to the noise-frustration also.
The discomfort of “air” (thus needing to burp) also gets him going. This double-reason to be grouchy does not actually mean double the decibel of cry-noise-level– it is actually exponential. In adult speak, I’d probably be able to see the vein on his temple given the intensity of his screaming.
And when he does finally belch, your satisfaction is usually shortlived, because- you guessed it- it’s back to snoozing time.
The whole feeding session therefore takes forever to finish. We are talking over an hour just to complete some 5 ounces of stickiness.
Which then brings us to the next item.
How to keep a sleepy baby awake TO BLOODY FINISH THE MILK
My method of waking him is by tickling his ribs. I think it is quite effective because if it were me I’d be awake too, but probably just as grouchy.
I can’t say all this is new to me. Caitlin was just as grouchy when I already started using this method over 3 years ago now (but this time; I checked, I didn’t leave red marks on her ribs like I did with my first offspring).
And all this, of course, is not only during the day. Mummee and Daddee are just as grouchy due to the lack of sleep from the night before, and to be woken during sleep, and the frustration not immediately getting back to sleep after being woken (at least for me; Mummee seems to be able to just-sleep, as if it were actually a verb) especially when it’s the limbo hours- 5:30 to 6:30am when I should be up at 7:15am– like, is there any point trying to go back to sleep when it takes me a while to get back to sleep…..
From memory, Caitlin wasn’t this difficult. But then again as with human psyche, we only remember the good stuff, less of the bad stuff… or is this psycho-babble only applicable to women and their reduced recollection of the pain during delivery? I am confused myself now I am not sure if I am right or confused gotta stay awake…
I am reminded of The Simpson’s episode where Homer’s half brother Herb, after being bankrupted by Homer, got a second wind by stumbling upon a venture idea: Invent / design a gadget that translates baby blabber into English. His test subject, of course, was Maggie. He went on the (re)become a millionaire with this gadget.
I think anyone in real life would, too. Either that or to develop the elixir to replace / regrow torn-out hair.