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Caitlin has just celebrated her 3rd birthday only a few weeks ago. Effectively that makes me a parent for just over 3 years (I am counting the months leading to her birth- after all the responsibilities start then..)
Taking JoJo’s cue: So, what have you learned, Daddee?
If Mummee asks you to watch her pregnant tummy move, you watch her pregnant tummy move! Even if the tv is showing this year’s Victoria Secret runway show. Actually, especially if the tv is showing this year’s Victoria Secret runway show. You can always try and find it again on the net (Someone send me the link please).
Don’t assume the obstetrician is rude if he doesn’t respond to you much. You are not his patient- he doesn’t have to put you at ease.
A cross-eyed obstetrician will still sew straight. Not to worry. (No, I already said he’s not rude! I do like him!)
Accidentally giving a toddler spicy food is not funny. There is nothing more helpless than watching the desperation of a toddler doing all of the following at the same time:
- Grabbing at her tongue trying to remove it from her skull
- “nnnggggghhhhffffffffff…… NNNGGGGGGGHHHHHHFFFFFFFFFFF!!”
- Jumping up & down on her high chair, without using her legs
- Trying to tell you “IT’S HOT IT’S HOT” without the control of her tongue
Children’s entertainment is no longer just playing with marbles or Casio LCD games. Computer generated animation does not always mean quality viewing.
You can forget about following the latest season of CSI. You no longer own your tv. On the brighter side, you can chat with your toddler about her favourite characters & why when Pocoyo didn’t share his bubbles with Ellie, Lula ended up being the victim also. Just follow the trail of events / evidence.
You’ll find yourself humming the theme songs of children’s shows.
Some of the songs in these shows are actually better written than what’s on the top 40.
Children can be reasoned with- they already seem to understand you around the same time they start teething.
If Mummee required epidural, & if you can stomach it, give her encouragement during delivery, even if it is visual (like thumbs up from the end of the bed). She cannot feel if she is even pushing at all.
Making an infant giggle is no easy task. But it does seem to build rapport.
Eye contact with your chilld is indescribable. Looking up at you squarely & grinning at you at their achievements is even better.
By all accounts we are not broke. But we may as well be because not only can’t we spend that savings, it’s still not going to be enough!
Mummies like to see the baby / toddler carseat left on your backseat. It means you are beyond just married.
Your waistline tends to increase at the same rate as their age. But you are actually not as fussed about it as you were when you were single. Except the need to shop for new pants.
It didn’t come with instructions, but somehow you do get it done.
Morning bad breath already starts at toddler-hood.
As soon as they start running, get a good pair of shoes. Get them a pair too.
Sometimes you pine for some alone time. When you are alone you wonder what they are doing & wished you could take them out to see the X’mas decor in the shopping centres.
Positive reinforcements is the best way to teach & influence a toddler, & builds confidence & self esteem.
Be cordial to your spouse. You are their model of couplehood.
They watch everything you do & say, & store it away to ask you later.
And they ask, and ask, and ask, and ask, and ask, and ask, and ask….
What are the first things you recall about first being a parent?


That’s a really nice list, quite touching also.
Unfortunately I can’t add to it.
You are 3 years into parenting…I am but 3 months!
All I know now is baby takes up the whole house, food consumed is already cold, eating takes up 5 minutes, no more whole night rests and I look LOUSY now!!!
Thanks for your comments!
Just want to share another father’s perspective on this…
http://metrodad.typepad.com/index/2007/12/the-juggle.html
Do read it!
